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Gaia is F**k It Magic personified.
Just listening to Gaia’s voice takes you to a different place. Having created the whole F**k It thing (with John) 10 years ago,
Gaia IS F**k It.

And you can’t help but get it when you hear Gaia talking.
We use the word ‘magic’ around Gaia too because that’s how people describe her and her work. (And Gaia has A LOT of people following her from one place to another, doing one retreat after another).

 

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Video 1: 
Getting into your (F**k It Magic) flow, whatever is happening.

Video 2: 
The F**k It Magic of accepting yourself as you are.

Video 3: 
Finding a vantage point of love in yourself, and watching the (F**k It) Magic ensue.

Find out more about the full F**k It Magic 21-day eCourse from which these extracts come, HERE.
(It starts on Monday, and we have a special half-price offer on just for this weekend).

75 Comments

  1. John C. Parkin

    Hi everyone,
    Please do write a comment below.
    We’ll read and reply to everything.
    What’s annoying you, and making it difficult for you to relax and feel okay?
    How would it be for you practise what Gaia talks about in this video and use what’s getting to you?
    John & Gaia x

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    • Mark

      It’s 23:28 and I’m at work. I won’t finish until 14:00 tomorrow. The thing that is annoying me is my fellow work colleagues well one in particular. She’s just bone idol and it’s really got to me this evening. I’m still very angry and annoyed.
      What I would like to do is tell her how angry I’m feeling. But I won’t and I’ll just grit my teeth when I see her. But what I’ll do now is light a candle, write my diary and listen to some classical music to relax. Thank you for allowing me to off load.

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      • John C. Parkin

        Mark,

        We get that – that is very annoying.
        All the best with relaxing there.

        Here’s a question for you – does her laziness directly affect you and your work? Ie. is she increasing your workload, or making anything more difficult for you?
        Or is it just very annoying to see someone in the same environment doing so little?

        If the former – it might be worth talking to someone more senior.
        If the latter – if she’s not directly affecting you, but is really really annoying, I’ll say this – it’s very likely that others see this, including those who employ her (and you).
        It’s very easy to spot those who work hard, and are loyal, and those who skive at the first chance.
        Of course, you could say something – but it’s likely that all is understood already.
        And talking to her – how do you think she would react?
        Don’t exclude it, but it may well be that she won’t change.

        All the best with this,
        John & Gaia x

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        • Mark

          Thanks for your reply John.
          It’s a combination of a lot of things. We are in the process of possibly losing our jobs, so things are a little stressful. And unfortunately I allowed her attitude and her laziness to get to me.
          Yet something remarkable happened. I saw my Facebook profile picture. It was one of your quotes ‘f**k It life is short’. So even though I do feel a bit angry I have just (to quote a Disney song) ‘let it go’. Now I don’t feel so bad.
          Thanks for your time John. Take care and I hope you have a nice f**king day 🙂

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          • John C. Parkin

            Pleasure Mark,
            All the best with the job situation,
            John

    • Kelly

      Today I’m not feeling my best anyway. I have a chronic illness which I still have not come to terms with and today I’m in pain which means I’m tense and grumpy anyway. We live in a flat with a small car park and in our town parking is very limited so when I came back home a short while ago some people had just parked their car sideways across 3 spaces and wee leaving the car park hence not residents or visitors to a resident. The car park has a sign clearly saying private for residents only and due to their crap parking I couldn’t park my car.
      I challenged them and got a mouth full of abuse for my troubles and quite honestly I could rip someone’s head off right now where I am so annoyed and so tense. I’m not sure I’m anywhere near able to go with any flow currently either with my illness or life in general. My fuck it would be life right now, I have no idea how to let it go and feel like fuck my life ! Over dramatic maybe but honest right now.

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      • John C. Parkin

        Kelly,

        It sounds very tough for you.
        And your flow is something different now.
        To suppress your upset and anger would not be ideal.
        But it sounds like you need support in this. Do you have someone you can talk to? A good friend or family member. Or a professional (ie. a counsellor or therapist of some sort).
        You’re going through a time of readjustment, so to feel such stress and difficulty is natural –
        you need help handling it.
        With help, you’ll be able to express what you’re feeling and develop a strategy for moving forwards.
        Gaia does 1-to-1s on skype if you don’t have anyone locally and you’d like her help.
        John (& Gaia) x

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    • Anne

      Video resonates so well because its how it is sometimes! the flow continues regardless, thanks for reminder

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      • John C. Parkin

        That’s a pleasure Anne,
        Love,
        Gaia & John x

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    • Sophie

      I love this second video. So beautiful. Such a beautiful way to bring you back to you.

      There is also a tribe who when someone does something ‘wrong’ they circle the person and remind them of all of the times they have also done ‘right’.
      This would also be a good exercise for ourselves when we are beating ourselves with a stick for fucking up.

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      • John C. Parkin

        Sophie,

        Yes, that is a beautiful exercise.
        Smother the ‘wrong’ with the ‘right’. Lovely.

        John & Gaia x

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    • Jo

      The past few days have been pretty challenging, for me. I submitted an academic paper for a conference in Singapore in Feb & received an acceptance letter via e- mail, last week. I was very happy and excited and submitted a carefully considered application for funding to my university dept. However, a manager replied pointing out that it was not possible to fund an International Conference due to recent challenging financial constraints. I meditated daily, stayed in my flow and set out the intention of abundance, at a yoga workshop at the weekend. Moreover, I developed a business case for funding drawing on my current academic activities, arguing for funding to support my goals and submitted the latter to my line manager. Funding was approved today & I’m off to Singapore in July! Beyond fabulous news. Yes, it is crucial to stay in the flow despite external turbulence & the will of others. Thank you for the brilliant videos

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      • John C. Parkin

        Jo,
        Congratulations, that’s great news –
        And how positively and abundantly you got there!
        Gaia & John x

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    • Nikki

      Hi there lovely folks,

      What a relief, a sudden, clear & warm sense of belonging and direction has surfaced after years of searching for it. Thankyou for sharing your magic with us.
      *hugs*

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  2. Karen

    My distractions typically come from my own inner voice through negative self-talk or rumination about a particular person who negatively impacts my life. Gaia made me think I should pause, sit still and allowing the thoughts instead of fighting them. The positive counter-thoughts will likely bubble up as well. If not, saying “F it” and walking away may allow me to leave it behind and start to flow in a new direction.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Karen,
      That’s a lovely practice,
      and a lovely direction,
      John & Gaia x

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  3. Belle

    Wow! I love your videos. You guys just rock! Interestingly, I’m currently taking classes to become a mental trainer, and there are so many similarities between the things I learn there and the things I learn from Fuck it. I just love it. Thanks for all of it.

    Belle

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thanks Belle,
      and that’s a pleasure…
      enjoy your training,
      John & Gaia x

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  4. Christa

    Wonderful….awesome lesson, thank you for sharing this! Life happens, and we only control our outlook, not the outcome. I often get irritated when I’m driving, but since I’ve incorporated meditation into my life twice a day, I can access my neutral mind much quicker. We always have a choice. XO Christa

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    • John C. Parkin

      Christa,
      We certainly do (have a choice) – and we can use everything as practice.
      John & Gaia x

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  5. Jenny

    This made me feel sad. It sort of confirmed that I don’t matter. A drill, a doorbell, someone arriving – like every small thing in life takes precedence over my feelings. It confirmed in an existential way that ‘fuck it’ is not always enough. Thank you for sharing. Jenny

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    • John C. Parkin

      Jenny,
      Well, this is an invitation for such outside interruptions and distractions, the noise of the everyday, the thieves of present attention, to be used for you to actually give precedence to your own feelings… so that we use the noise of the outside as a reminder to step into our own flow inside.
      It’s always up to us where we place our attention, and how we respond to any stimuli.
      John & Gaia x

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  6. Emma Middlemiss

    A brilliant movie guys. Sometimes we focus on what we want out of life and forget about life going on around us having other plans. We’re all part of a bigger picture and it’s worthwhile to take a step back to see how we fit in, reshape what we’re doing and move on. Thanks for the reminder xxx

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    • John C. Parkin

      That’s a pleasure Emma,
      It’s lovely to sit back into the bigger picture perspective isn’t it?
      Gaia & John x

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  7. Jane

    Thank you! Another reminder to let go… and look after my liver chi

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    • John C. Parkin

      Hi Jane,
      Yes, it is liver isn’t it? Lemon juice and breathing into bliss through the noisy neighbours, that sorts it!
      Gaia & John x

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  8. Anji

    If I’m honest it stressed me out a bit. Sorry. Probably means I need you guys. Two moths came in at the end which I’m afraid I had to run off to kill – which is a bit dark but they are wreaking havoc with our clothes – so it’s us v them. I was still listening though.

    But anyway, I know you’re a force for good.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Anji,

      We’re sorry to hear it stressed you – but, you’re right, it probably means this message is something worth pondering.
      And to realise something like this is bothering – that we can be so affected by the interruptions of the world…
      And that you were invaded by moths – little smile – wow!
      We’ve had our battles with moths back in the day too, so know what that’s like –
      and with neighbours –
      and with annoying people –
      and with serious situations –
      and everything can be practice, to breathe and accept, and incorporate whatever’s coming at us into this sense of the wider flow,
      to sit back into things JUST AS THEY ARE –
      hard (and can be stressful at first, yes) but well worth it,

      John & Gaia x

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  9. Tyagi

    Ironically, the thing which is getting to me is that I can’t actually SEE the video because I am in a place with an internet connection that is only slightly better than dial-up ! On the other hand, it is a paradisical island and I’ve just been sitting in the sun having some great food.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Tyagi,

      Well, hearing it should be enough. The visuals are a series of drawings that Gaia did to go with the recording.
      And your paradise island is a great place to practice this too…
      When the base level of your external reality is paradise-like,
      see what pops up to mirror your own internal state… and it does tend to happen.
      You’re like a control test for this!

      Enjoy,
      John & Gaia x

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  10. Doni

    Thank you for the video. Everyday is a choice to ignore annoyances around me and focus on what’s important to my wellbeing. But at some stage, if it keeps on going all the time, would you not try to resolve an issues? Bring it to the other persons attention? …Did hotel management at least give you a freebie?
    Thanks again.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Doni,
      Absolutely!
      The full process here can be to fully accept whatever is the ‘annoying’ stimulus.
      Then, once accepted, make the decision as to whether to sit through it, live through it,
      or take action from that clearer place.
      And that is actually a much stronger place to take action from…
      In this case, going to the hotel reception and angrily demanding action is very different to calmly discussing the situation with them, and seeing if anything be done (or, yes, a freebie can be procured!).
      It’s different for us (the blood-pressure stays down).
      And it usually ensures a better outcome doesn’t it?
      As someone who ran a retreat / hotel, I know which person I’d go out of my way to help if they had a complaint.
      I suppose, in the wider sense, this is about moving towards, and meeting, reality, even when it’s the opposite of what we want it to be, rather than defending and reacting aggressively to what doesn’t suit us.
      Thanks so much for your point –
      John & Gaia x

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  11. Marj

    Really great to be reminded that we have a choice. In the past I have become very angry when equipment doesn’t work or there are distractions especially when giving a lecture. Then I lose the plot. Such anger. After that little reminder I will take a breath, and use what is there. As a wise Sage once said “It doesn’t matter so much”.
    Thanks, Mr and Mrs F**k it, once again. Awesome video.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thanks lovely Marj,
      I can’t imagine you losing the plot!
      Though I guess if I add 44 degrees, and the slides not working, it could test anyone, even you.
      Too right, it doesn’t matter so much. 🙂
      Johnx

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  12. Peter

    Hi Guys
    am having a real problem with our neighbours. Their 18 year old son seems out of their control. He is a “biker” and he and his mates play very loud heavy metal type music from a shed in their garden most of the day and up to 11pm at night. My wife is having a break-down over it and it is driving me crazy11 Also it causes arguments between us. I complain to the parents, it is ok for 20 mins and then it starts again. I attended one of your courses (before all this) and it helped me but this is something else! Any ideas??

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    • John C. Parkin

      Hey Peter,

      I’m sorry to hear it.
      I write this with a slight blush too as we were (unusually) noisy last night – singing til the early hours and no doubt annoying our neighbours.
      In fact, you’ve reminded me I should poddle off and apologise.

      So, it sounds like you’ve tried your patience enough.
      If there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it, then do try your best to use any method you can to accept the sounds in that moment.
      But, as you know, action is required here.
      It’s just – what action? And how do you approach taking that action?

      First off, have you taken wider advice about this? I’m not sure of the steps – but probably start with citizens’ advice… and research what the steps are you can take.
      The parents would be the place to go… but sounds like you’re getting little joy.
      Maybe understand how you could escalate this if required –
      then go to the parents and explain that it’s not a situation you can tolerate any longer (as it sounds like they’re simply not taking this seriously enough),
      and that there are other steps you could take, but you’d prefer to try to work it out between you first.

      Maybe you could think about what WOULD work for you –
      Would you be okay if they played at certain times, for a limited time?
      Is there somewhere you could recommend they practise instead of the shed?
      Could you research that?
      We have a son who’s in 3 bands – and they always use rehearsal facilities.

      So… I’d sit down together and work out an action plan –
      plan it step-by-step.
      I’m sure there will be some serious ways that you could escalate it,
      but best to offer solutions before that.

      All the best with this –
      Totally stressful – but there will be a way through,
      Johnx

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      • Peter

        Hi John
        Thanks for the advice. We had been thinking of moving anyway(for other reasons) and this seems to be “Life’s” way of motivating us to move our ar**s ASAP!! We have a buyer and it should go through. Why is change so difficult? In the interim, I am trying to get into the flow and shut all this “stuff” out. It is bloody hard but maybe it is the way it must happen! Many, many thanks! F**k it does work. Regards, peter

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  13. Lynn

    I see this as the difference between saying F**K You or F**K It, when distractions arise.
    Choosing flow is not always easy, as generally the will, will always arise first – but seeing this and than choosing flow is by far a much better outcome for all. Thank you for reminding me that I have a choice.

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    • John C. Parkin

      That’s a pleasure Lynn,
      And we love your summary as the difference between F**k You and F**k It.
      And – as discussed in other comments – once we’ve said F**k It and sat back and accepted more,
      it doesn’t exclude saying F**k It and calmly approaching the source or cause of the disturbance…
      from that very different place,
      John & Gaia x

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  14. Lydia

    Thanks for this video and especially this soothing, relaxing voice! I love it.
    I know these “interruptions” from my lovely countryside neighborhood… drilling machines, tractors harvesting or spraying cow’s shit a meter from my hammock…of course preferably on weekend’s … or my neighbors f… emotion-detector light which goes on even when the littlest mouse passes by and makes us feel like spotted from an FBI team
    … all these things just make my bad state worse but never cause a bad state … if I’m happy I’m happy anyways.
    Love x
    Keep up the good work
    Lydia

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    • John C. Parkin

      Lydia,
      Thanks for your great message –
      We love this line –
      ‘All these things just make my bad state worse but never cause a bad state … if I’m happy I’m happy anyways.’
      That is a very beautiful observation.
      And it’s a great mantra for us all.
      Love,
      Gaia & John x

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      • Lydia

        Mille grazie for this lovely reply!
        Un abbracio forte,
        Lydia x

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        • John C. Parkin

          Prego,
          Gaia & John x

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  15. Fabiana

    Thanks for this really good reminder! For me this happens quite a lot, whether I’m are aware of it or not. The drilling sound is a fantastic metafor for the obvious things. The subtleties for me are a lot harder to ‘catch’ and turn around. Becoming aware of all big and minor disctractions now seems like a never ending journey. I loose track quite a lot allowing my distractions to interfere. Knowing I always have a choice and allow myself both flows simultaneously is really comforting. Thanks guys, love the vid’s. Fabiana

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thank you Fabiana,
      It’s not easy, it’s true.
      But here’s the thing – when you bring your attention to this, even if we’re initially aware that it’s tough to stay in our flow, then just that really helps. It’s often about attention. Actually – attention and relaxation. Increasing both those aspects of our lives sorts of lot of stuff doesn’t it?
      Love,
      Gaia & John x

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  16. Debra

    what a beautiful piece. the message is disarmingly simple yet profound in effect. i am definitely going to work on allowing what were previously perceived to be stumbling blocks in my path to now form part of my flow. cheers both!

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thanks for your message Debra,
      And that’s wonderfully expressed back to us!…
      ‘allowing what were previously perceived to be stumbling blocks in my path to now form part of my flow’.
      Yum. EVERYTHING is part of our flow, yes, we just have to see that,
      Love,
      Gaia & John x

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  17. Jan

    As I listened to this a van came down my driveway and all three of my dogs leapt out of their beds and ran out of the house barking (please don’t comment on my dog training). Perfect timing for a perfect illustration of what Gaia was telling us and a chance to experience and practice. Can’t get a better six minutes of education than that.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Jan,
      Wonderful! It’s beautiful when life joins in with the message like that.
      Love to you,
      Gaia & John x

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  18. Bernard

    G’day Gaia and John. You’re absolutely right… There’s no point carrying on like a pork chop (lovely bit of “Strine”, that) when something gives me the irrits. If I do that, I’ve just allowed whatever (or whoever) it was to drag me out of my peace and my flow.

    “This, too, shall pass,” as a wise man once said.

    Thank you both and please keep up the good F**k It work 🙂

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    • John C. Parkin

      Barnard,
      Thanks for your message –
      And what lovely language – especially the ‘pork chop’ –
      that will now become part of our language!
      Love to you,
      Gaia & John x

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  19. Donna Sim

    I was there at that workshop in London with the drilling going on, but amazingly, it was only on hearing your story that I remembered the drilling. The funny thing is that usually it’s that kind of “annoyance” that will stick in my head after an otherwise fun day or activity, over-and-above all the fun I had, but on that occasion I had COMPLETELY forgotten about it! I think that shows what an usually wonderful state of mind I must have gotten into that weekend, and it also motivates me to start practising F**k It earnestly once again– it is such a powerful feeling. Thank you for reminding me.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Hi Donna,
      Ahh, that’s great to hear – it’s great to get into that state isn’t it?
      And to know that it’s there all the time – we just have to work on accessing it (or sit back and just access it!),
      Love,
      Gaia & John x

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  20. Ev

    This was very interesting and I loved the drawings. I struggle with telling the difference when I just need to continue with my flow and when to interrupt.

    What is stressing me out right this minute? I have just got off the phone with my grandmother, who lives in a different country (I lived there till I was 14). She wants me to come to my cousin’s wedding with my husband and son this year. I am feeling awful and guilty because I do not want to do it.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Hi Ev,
      Thanks for your message.
      Your dilemma – ouch, yes, one of those!
      Is there another solution? One that might not be perfect for you, but better?
      You go alone?
      You combine it with something you would love like a holiday?
      Something – there’s usually a way.
      John & Gaia x

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      • Ev

        At the moment I’m just leaning towards not going and being a disappointment. I’m generally a family disappointment (estranged from most of it for the last 10 years…eek!).
        I have until summer to stress about it..

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  21. Jane

    Hi john and Gia
    I’m feeling really despondent and stuck in my job at the moment. This is a new feeling for me, as for a long time I have been striving to improve and have found work fore-filing. I am looking for a new job, but need to make it through each day in the short term. I am aware that this despondency is spilling out into my personal life. Any suggestions? Jane x

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    • John C. Parkin

      Jane,
      You need a bit of a strategy to keep you going through this patch.
      Look after your health first. So try to exercise, maybe walk every day, and take care with your diet. Also, make sure you sleep enough.
      Then look after your mental state. Try to take time out to do things you love. Treat yourself. If you have a way to support your state (for example, these videos come from a full 21-day eCourse that we’ll be starting soon, that would be good… of find similar teachings from teachers you trust).
      And if you have someone to talk to about how things are going, that always helps… a good friend / family or a professional.
      All the best through this tough period,
      John & Gaia x

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  22. Michael Maier

    Hello, you two lovely souls,

    I like your videos for a short guided meditation, thank you very much for providing them to us!! Great if you can keep your flow under all circumstances, including electric drills. And where is that African village, never heard of it before? Nice story, everyone’s song! Have you been to Africa?

    Cheers, Michael

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    • John C. Parkin

      Hi Michael,
      I’ve looked at the origins of that song story before and it is somewhat vague – some think it come from a tribe in Namibia, others from the Himba people…
      It seems likely that the thread of the story originates from a tribal birth tradition, and that (in a grand storytelling tradition), the story has been elaborated since.
      It’s become a modern fable I suppose, reminding us that we do need to appreciate ourselves, and of the value of community.
      John & Gaia x

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  23. Jan

    The thought of having a song that is mine, of my conception being positively planned (not the trickery and manipulation that it was) and jointly celebrated is so overwhelmingly sad and beautiful. I will sing my song into being and gift it to myself. Thank you guys for such a wonderful video and such a beautiful story. If only all communities had such love at their heart we would feel the connection that we all need.
    Fab video, I love the drawings too. ❤️

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thanks Jan,
      Yes, we need to bring more love into all our communities,
      Love to you, in this community,
      Gaia & Johnx

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  24. Julie

    This made me feel sad. I had to let go of my original tribe six years ago for my own mental health and wellbeing. I would have loved to belong to a tribe like that. Now I have my own little tribe and I am reminded of how important I am to them, and them to me. I can sing their songs but i guess I have to sing my own?

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    • John C. Parkin

      Julie,
      Yes, this is about feeling the sadness of not necessarily being supported and appreciated in the ways that we have needed…
      But that we can accept, appreciate and love ourselves nevertheless.
      Love,
      Gaia & John x

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  25. Bernard

    Hi Gaia and John

    No, I could not imagine a whole group of people gathering around me and singing my song to me. And that made me sad because I realised that I’m a product of my upbringing (Anglo-Irish-Australian-Catholic) and we just don’t do things that way.

    But what if we did?

    Would the world be in the sorry, f**ked-up state we see today? I think not.

    Thank you both for pointing to a better way. Again.

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    • John C. Parkin

      Bernard,
      But where we can start, and control, is singing that song to ourselves, and loving ourselves as we would like to have been loved / appreciated and how we would like to be loved and appreciated.
      The rest, we can’t do a lot about.
      John & Gaia x

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  26. Ev

    I’ve just watched the second video….So many thoughts and feelings…Last year I was at an exhibition where there was a blackboard with “Before I die I want to…..” on it for people to fill in the blanks. I wrote, ‘find my tribe’.
    This is strangely related to my comment on the first video, about me stressing about the far away family wedding. There’s something I didn’t say that I am stressing about in this situation – I am stressing about this weird feeling of lightness that I got when I thought “You know what, I can’t do this. I can’t go and hang with people I’ve been estranged from/didn’t meet for almost 11 years. Even though it’ll upset some of them a lot. This is where I have come from, but it is not my tribe. Even if I never see them again, I think I’m fine. I wish nobody got sad, but this is just they way I feel”. I thought that and it felt light..and weird and then… I started stressing about being defective because I should have more feelings towards my original family. I have my little family: my husband and my son. My little tribe. In time, I hope there will be other people..friends…

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    • John C. Parkin

      Ev,
      Your feeling of lightness is completely understandable, because you’re recognising a truth for you, you’re bringing that truth to the surface (even though it might be difficult), and that makes us feel more free.
      Trust that feeling. Don’t stress about it.
      It’s best to make your decisions on this from a place of truth… ‘The truth is… so I feel that I should…’.
      You have your new tribe, and your relationship is changing with the other tribe. Not ending but changing. And you’re recognising that and adapting to it.
      John & Gaia x

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  27. Susan

    I get seriously stressed about religion and all the problems it is causing, also the awful cruelty around the world to animals, = rhinos, elephants, factory farming, dogs, donkeys, zoos
    and more. I help where I can but difficult to change the world – so maybe just enjoy my own surroundings, home, animals, family and shut my eyes and ears to the awfulness of it all !

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    • John C. Parkin

      Susan,
      Yes, the serenity prayer comes in handy at times like this!
      But the best tactic is always to do what we can, from a centred place, about what we can influence, and then try to relax around what we can’t.
      John & Gaia x

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  28. Aaron Johnson

    Both videos were excellent but the second video really touched my spirit. The idea of being in a tribe and having the love of a mother that listens to the wind to know you before you are even conceived and give you your own song is such a beautiful expression of love and life. I was having a very rough day today. Just worked 7 days straight and I haven’t been behaving from a centered place but of a place of selfishness and poor me thinking. Thank you for sending this in my email. I believe in the magic of Gaia and John!

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    • John C. Parkin

      Thank you for your message Aaron,
      We hope next week is better.
      And please be kind on yourself – however you’ve been feeling. The question for all of us is how can we look after and parent ourselves as we would liked to have been looked after and parented? How we can view ourselves as that ideal tribe would view us – with softness and compassion.
      We’re often harder on ourselves than anyone else.
      So please be kind and forgiving to yourself.
      Feel what it’s like to gaze on all the aspects of yourself as a (loving) parent would look on their child.
      That’s what we’re after,
      Gaia & John x

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  29. Eva

    Hi! What is annoying me is that I’m ill for the second time in a very short period. And that I’m in a very vulnerable state. Crying alot, being aggressive, too. I’m always looking forward to integrating Yoga and sports into my life, becoming a certified Yoga teacher even. But work is really tough – I teach refugees – and so I’m ill often and can’t seem to head in the direction I want. On the other hand I try to be hopeful that there will be a way. If it shall be it will be or something like that…But I have the feeling time is running through my hands, too. Especially when I’m ill. And then I have a bad conscience for wanting something different than I have in my life now. And that I have been stuggling for so long and still haven’t got my shit together in an ‘ok, fine for now’ manner.
    The Gaia videos are lovely!

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    • John C. Parkin

      Eva,

      Oh bum, I just wrote a long reply but it crashed and disappeared.
      Eek.
      I was saying that you’re partly facing a classic dilemma –
      You can’t fully be with where you are because it feels like it would be giving up on your dream.
      And you can’t fully go for your dream because it would mean admitting you’re not so happy where you are.
      Whereas change most often comes from being at peace with where we are then seeing how things develop naturally.
      So it’s more likely you could move towards that more ideal situation by finding some ease where you are.
      Easier said than done I know.
      It sounds like it’s a tough time for you – do you have support? Ideally in the form of someone to talk to regularly, someone objective enough.
      John & Gaia x

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      • eva

        Hi! Thanks for answering! I sometimes talk to counselors (three different ones ), but not on a regular basis. And they don’t bring out the best in me. I don’t know. It seems I’m struggling in finding the right people to help me, too. Maybe some eff it will suit me well again some time soon! Best, Eva

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